And in this area, like the Nereids that help travellers, I will work the same areas as in Mariarivescoach but specifically aimed at migrants and travelers of life who face deeper changes than non-expatriates, helping emigrants to Adapt to the process of changing residence
I chose this name because I like mythology, which represents and in particular I chose the nereids are considered nymphs of the Mediterranean Sea, and as such live in the depths of the Mediterranean; However, they emerge to the surface to help sailors who traverse the prozealous seas, the Argonauts being the most famous among those who helped while traveling in search of the gold fleece. They symbolize everything that is beautiful and kind in the sea. They sing in a melodious voice and dance around their father.
The Nereids are characterized by being patient and tireless workers, to know how to keep calm in the face of difficulties, so they are accustomed to reach the end of what they have undertaken.
I like what it represents, because I want to help you in your inner journey, in your quest for your fleece, and to surface your best self, in a beautiful and kind way. I promise to be with you, to get to the end of the journey.
“Perhaps traveling is not enough to prevent intolerance, but if you can prove to us that all people cry, laugh, eat, worry and die, you may then introduce the idea that if we try to understand each other, we may even make friends “– Maya Angelou
To start this series of articles about emigration, I’ll talk about my personal experience as emigrant, about what emigration is, because people emigrate, practical things to keep in mind when they emigrate, and especially how to prepare emotionally to go away And how to get the most out of your immigration process. I will comment on tools and give ideas on how to turn this process, sometimes very hard, into something profitable and a pleasant journey. I will be dealing with issues of emigration, general (what is and how to adapt) and topical issues that arise. I am open to collaborations, both of people who work with and for emigrants, and emigrants and people who are interested in migratory issues
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Emigration. My experience
I carry the experience of emigration and travel from the very beginning of my life, already in my mother’s womb. When my parents got married they went to the United States to work. His honeymoon was the boat trip there and I was commissioned by the way,and was born there, and my sister a year later. When I was about 3 years old, we went back to Spain. We were living around a year in Valencia (my parents were Valencian) and then for Barcelona since my father had a good job in the city. For my father and personal work I lived a year and a half in the United States again. With 24 years I moved for work to Valencia., where I lived many years, but interspersed with a year in England, a few months in Barcelona and Granada also for business reasons. Five years ago I met my husband, and this time, for his work reasons (his company, with the crisis closed and he was fired and I was out of work) we went to Ireland,Where I studied coaching (I studied psychology and discovered this tool). There I did an important introspection work, I started to get rid of job locks that I had (I served the fact of being away from home, not having at first time work and a lot of free time and without friends). In Ireland I got a caretaker’s job (I’m also a clinic assistant), a social integrator and a tour guide, and I started studying coaching and then attending coach clients. None of the jobs were many hours so I could reconcile them. And in Ireland, the labor blockades I broke were that even though I was already an age, and that I hadn’t been working in a while, I could go back to work. And although there are blockades that cost, because they were many years of limiting beliefs, I’ve been getting rid of them (I still have some but I’m in it). After a little over 2 years my husband got a job in Munich, and after talking about it we came here.I did not like the Irish weather, despite the rest was good(it is something that has to be awae when you emigrate) and that was one of the factors that we took into consideration when packing and do as the movie “Come to Germany Pepe”(. From the distance I can say that Ireland was a good experience. I improved my level of English, eliminated ma Spanish movie of the 60s that talks about going to Germany to work)any work locks, I have clear that is what I want at professional level (combine tourism with helping others as a social integrator and as a coach, and in the near future as a psychologist). Now I am learning German, I am working as a guide and as a coach and when I have a good level of German I will seek social integration work.
I don’t know how long we’ll be here, but for now it’s a city I like, with its more and less, and I want to get all its juice. I keep learning things from coach, from Germany, from psychology and helping to create a better world.
If you want to tell your experiences as emigrants, or with emigrants, in positive, feel free to do so!
EMIGRATION. SOME DEFINITIONS
“To travel is to discover that everyone is wrong about the other countries.” – Aldous Huxley
To start talking about emigration, you have to know what it is, what it consists of and why people make that decision, I start from here because I think it’s important that when you talk about certain things it is convenient we talk about the same that we have a common language
According to the dictionary
Emigrating is from Lat. Emigrāre.
1. Intr. Said of one person: to leave their own country to settle in another foreigner.
2. Intr. Said of one person: to leave the habitual residence in search of better means of life within his own country.
3. Intr. Said of some animal or plant species: change places by season, feeding or reproduction requirements.
Here we are interested in the first 2 definitions, especially the first
To emigrate is to move to another place of your habitual residence, for political, economic reasons, to improve your academic and work record, war, fear of your physical or psychic integrity, health….. So the emigration is to leave your place of origin for whatever reason and go to live somewhere else at a distance big enough to feel a “stranger” and away from “your people”
It is necessary to differentiate between emigrant, expatriate, external, internal, migrate, immigrant and immigrant. The external emigrant is the one that goes to another country, to migrate is to move to another place, emigrant is the person who goes away and immigrant is the person is the person who arrives. So the immigrant is a migrant (national or not) who has migrated..…
Depending on the reasons, if you can prepare for the trip, the time to be out, your strengths and interior resources, if you have close ties place of origin or ties rather than host… emigration you will live it in one way or another
You have to know that emigration is usually not easy. There will be times you want to go back, you want to throw it all away and go home. That is normal and there is a time for adaptation….
Want to comment on something? Anything missing? If so coment them… delighted to read your comments.…
Also if you are, or were, migrant, or have family is out, write to me too!
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Emigration. Practical things
“When you travel, remember that foreign countries are not designed to make you feel comfortable. They’re designed to make your own people feel comfortable. ” – Clifton Fadiman
This is important to keep in mind. When we emigrate to other places you have to remember that things are not made to make life comfortable for us. They are made for the comfort of the people of the place. And it is our turn to make the effort to adapt. And we will live strange situations, frustrating, some funny… and you will lose a lot of time in comings and goings because you have not understood what they asked…
And once this is cleared up, we’re going to start talking about practical things.
First of all decide whether or not you leave. You can’t always decide, or plan, (if your life is in danger because of war, natural disasters,….) If you emigrate or not. But if you can get ready for the trip (and if it’s a free decided trip better) better.
The practical things to keep in mind when you are going to emigrate are several:
-Learn the language if you go to a country that speak a different language than yours (or dialectal variations)
-Improve your English, it will be useful
-Find out about health, which covers health in the country you go. Take away the European health card if you are European and emigrate to another country in Europe
-Look for schools if you have children
-Requirements to work. If, in addition, your profession requires homologations
-Requirements to open bank accounts
-What kind of clothes do you need
-Search home, not always get online, in fact it is often difficult, but not impossible, and at least you get an idea that things ask you. In Germany when they say that the house has X rooms one of them is the dining room, and if it is unfurnished it is unfurnished. Bulbs and kitchen also have to put them and sometimes the bathroom also….
-Prepare your CV in English and in the language of the country (remember, they don’t know your language!)
-Look in Facebook pages and similar to “your nationality-Spaniards-in city or country where you go
-Find a destination where to practice your hobbies. It will be easier to adapt
-Find the help of a coach to help you clarify your goals, to get your strengths to help you in the process. The Coach, through an individual and confidential process with the Coachee (protagonist of the Coaching process), will accompany this to support him during the different phases of his experience: awareness and identification of the goal to achieve, analysis and Identification of resources to be empowered, limiting beliefs to challenge, action plan and follow-up.
When we do Coaching to support expatriate integration processes, we work with the person to reach their definition of goal: at times, effective integration will be perceived when a difficulty is resolved in the adaptation of the children, or the couple…
ABOUT THE JOURNEY
Today’s post its about one of my favourites poems. Ithaca of Cavafy. It talks about journeys, inner and external journeys.
I would like you comment what that poem suggest to you. In my next post I will talk about what it suggests to me….
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When you set out for Ithaka
ask that your way be long,
full of adventure, full of instruction.
The Laistrygonians and the Cyclops,
angry Poseidon – do not fear them:
such as these you will never find
as long as your thought is lofty, as long as a rare
emotion touch your spirit and your body.
The Laistrygonians and the Cyclops,
angry Poseidon – you will not meet them
unless you carry them in your soul,
unless your soul raise them up before you.
Ask that your way be long.
At many a Summer dawn to enter
with what gratitude, what joy –
ports seen for the first time;
to stop at Phoenician trading centres,
and to buy good merchandise,
mother of pearl and coral, amber and ebony,
and sensuous perfumes of every kind,
sensuous perfumes as lavishly as you can;
to visit many Egyptian cities,
to gather stores of knowledge from the learned.
Have Ithaka always in your mind.
Your arrival there is what you are destined for.
But don’t in the least hurry the journey.
Better it last for years,
so that when you reach the island you are old,
rich with all you have gained on the way,
not expecting Ithaka to give you wealth.
Ithaka gave you a splendid journey.
Without her you would not have set out.
She hasn’t anything else to give you.
And if you find her poor, Ithaka hasn’t deceived you.
So wise you have become, of such experience,
that already you’ll have understood what these Ithakas mean.
I would like you comment what this poem means to you. In my next post I will talk about what it represents to me….
What does the poem suggest? For me it speaks of internal travel, (and external, but to a lesser extent) that we do in search of adventures, of knowledge, to pursue our dreams, to have objectives, to grow as people. Have a destiny, but as the other poet would say he makes his way to walk. We all have a place to go, Ithaca, El Dorado, our house… But that our home, destiny…. It will be, or not, what we expected. And it probably won’t be. There are things that evolve and not being there evolve in a different way…. And so do we! And the important thing is to enjoy the road, and for me it is good to miss your things, but not focus on them… Because we miss the good thing about the trip. You miss opportunities to meet interesting people and have experiences…. to you, the trip you have undertaken what do you like the most? What are your dreams? Do you like them? Can you tell me?
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HOW TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF EMIGRATION 1
I have already talked about the advantages and disadvantages of emigrating. Today I want to take part of the topic, how to take advantage of the migratory process.
It does not matter if you emigrated by choice (although it is easier) or because you had no other…
What matters is that you are here and now, for a time at least, so the best thing to do is to get the best out of the subject. Although it is good, if you feel sad about what is left behind, feel that sadness, is normal. Many times longing will come and it’s fine. There are things that are missed (people, landscapes, smells, meals….) do not refuse to feel them
I’m doing well when I enter the fussiness, or melancholy, to sit awhile alone and feel it. Also call someone from my land and talk for a while (Blessed technologies…) and you how do you handle it? Although if the sadness is much perhaps it is advisable to seek therapeutic help (here the coaching can help but it is not the most suitable tool, at least by itself), and once you have given permission to feel the sadness is a matter of seeing the good things and how to take advantage that process.
To do this remember why you emigrated, the pros and cons of leaving your place of origin behind and pros and cons of your new place. Is it worth it? Yes? Are you still staying? How can you make the process better? Can you tell me?
In short, it’s normal to feel sad sometimes. Sit down and then let go… Find help you need…. And remember the reasons why you emigrated… and things you can do to make you live better… And if you want to share…
In next post I’ll talk about how to get the most out of the immigration process
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HOW TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF EMIGRATION 2
Continuing with the previous post, I will talk about how to take advantage of the immigration process.
First of all, it’s to remember why you emigrated. It is good to have clear about the pros of emigration. Would you like to comment? I for example had 2 options, to stay in my house, without work (not yet a coach at the time) and without a partner and the other go with my partner, and future husband, to Ireland (then we went to Germany), with a job on his part and then I got a job there. Which allowed me to study coaching. Then for me one of the advantages was to be with the person I wanted and with a job, at least on their part. Since in Spain my husband, along with many others, had fired him, which the thing at home painted badly. So in Ireland we had work and to each other. 2 advantages.
Another Advantage is that I met a country I did not know and “discovered” the Celtic culture, which I love. In fact I do Celtic rituals with coaching techniques as I think a very interesting tool and also improved my English. Five pros Already.
In Germany, one advantage is that I am learning German. And knowing another culture and other people, that always comes in good. AND I am developing as a person and as a professional, faster and more deeply than if I had stayed at home.
In short, emigrating allows you to know other countries, languages, grow more as a person and in your work.
In Next post I will continue talking about how to take advantage of this experience
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POST 14 CONTINUING TO ENJOY THE ADVANTAGES 3
Perhaps traveling is not enough to prevent intolerance, but if you can prove to us that all people cry, laugh, eat, worry and die, you may then introduce the idea that if we try to understand each other, we may even dofriends “– Maya Angelou
As Maya Angelou says to travel (and here I include living in other countries, being emigrant to) helps you to take away the bandage of intolerance, something that is very positive for the person. It opens your mind, you learn new things, you eat different things, some as good as the famous croquettes of mom;), you know places and especially you know different people and you see that they are as people like you, with their good things and their bad things. And stereotypes are broken. And developing what Maya Angelou says there are several things:
-Intolerance: I knew something about that. And here she talks about the importance of realizing that human beings are that, human beings, who weep, laugh, eat, worry and die (I would add more things, like we love, hate, learn, or not, sleep,….). Although it seems a lie that we have not yet learned (already said Shylock, the Jew of the Merchant of Venice, Shakespeare…), but hey, what was. Living in other countries can help prevent intolerance, because you realize a number of things that are otherwise more difficult to see….
-the possibility of making friends: if we emigrate and live somewhere else we will meet new people, much of it interesting. And the fact that we are out of our known environment makes it easier for us to open up because we need social relations. And makes it easy to have new friends
In short, emigrating makes it easy for you to meet new people and tolerance.
In next posts I will continue to talk about the topic
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CONTINUING WITH THE ADVANTAGES
Continuing with the advantages. There are many. Some of them have already commented. And I’ll keep doing it
One of them is that you can reinvent yourself in an easier way than if you had stayed at home. Since you’re out of your group, your family, friends, neighbors…. What they expect how you behave. People don’t know you and don’t expect you to behave the way you’ve always behaved. So if you want to change a habit, experience something new, different, now it will be easier do you want to experience something new and do not know how? I can help you in the process…..
At the professional level, you have to face a different way of doing things. And that can help you grow as a person and as a professional
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POST 16 MIGRATION
TODAY IS ABOUT DRAWBACKS
In the issue of migration there are also drawbacks. And denying them is counterproductive. Because they prevent you, or at least hinders, to overcome or minimize them.
For me the drawbacks are 3 basically:
1.-being away from your roots and people you want
2.-Adapting to a new site is sometimes difficult and there are people who are not able to adapt
3.-racism. That exists in all cultures of the world, to a greater or lesser degree and you have to assume it exists and work it to end up disappearing
Do you have any other drawbacks? I’ll be happy to have your comment.
In my coaching sessions we work on these drawbacks and how to reverse them.
In next posts I will speak with more depth of these drawbacks and delighted to hear you here or my email firstname.lastname@example.org
Like all great travellers, I have seen more than I can remember, and I remember more than I have seen “– Benjamin Disraeli”
Another drawback is racism
I have not lived too much, perhaps because I am European and I have been basically in EU countries and try to practice that wherever you go do what you see, without losing my essence. And although I have not suffered, my friends did. And it gives a lot of courage to see that you are treated like nobody by skin color, provenance… When you are judged without knowing anything about you….
To avoid, or lessen racism I try to adapt to the place, as I said before. I mean, I learn the language and history, t
ery to make friends of the country, respect the customs, copying the ones that I like, I participate in the host society, well as a volunteer, working… explaining the advantages that migrants bring to the host country….
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POST 19 FINISHING WITH DISADVANTAGES Another one of the disadvantages in migratory process is to happen what is called the migratory duel. From the psychological perspective, migration is considered to be an event in life that, like any change, is a part of stress, tension and loss, which is why many people experience migratory grief. In part, it is because you are not with the “yours”, not living with them in the usual way, often not knowing if you will see them again, not sharing your daily life with them, not knowing if they are okay and not being able to help them out. that they throw it at you … both on a practical level and on an emotional level … It is also passed through emotional grief due to the loss of smells, tastes, sights … that are loved …. And for cultural differences and can not express the way you’re used, especially if you migrate to another country with another language …. In my next post I will talk about how I carry the duel … And if you want to comment something do it here or through my email firstname.lastname@example.org and thanks for reading!
POST 20 THE MOURNING
hello again, today I will talk about how I deal withe the migrant mourning, that despite time away from home I am still having … I think a big part it is because after just over 2 years in Ireland, my partner and I moved to Germany, and although in my case it was a desired change, it is still a process that sometimes hurts and costs.
My way of passing the mourning is multiple:
1.-The days that I am feeling blue I allow myself to be sad. I stop for a while, and I feel the sadness.
2.-I did not know German (I still do not know much, but I can communicate a little bit !!! Finally!) And before I arrived to Munich I had already enrolled in a German school. And that’s useful for me because it allowed me to leave the house (I came with my husband and without formal 8-hour work, which would allow me to leave the house and get to know Munich), start learning the language of Goethe and meet people
3.-I like sports and I joined a pool and I go several days a week. This is good for several things as I talked in other posts
4.-I have signed up for several activities some Germans and some with Spaniards, so I am in contact with Germans and with people with my roots
5.-And I give myself my time to adapt, it takes time … And I enjoy the good things that I have
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STAGES OF THE DUEL. FIRST PART
Preparing the post, I wanted to talk about the stages of the duel, I have run into the prologue of José Saramago from the book “Moors on the coast” by Juan José Téllez.
What I include to comment. I find it interesting, since as Saramago comments, we all have emigrants in our family tree (and in the stages of racism and xenophobia that we are living, it is good to remember it, but this will be discussed in another post), and the way our ancestors mourned , we will be better or worse. That’s why I find it interesting to put it and comment
“Let the first stone be thrown who has never had emigration spots on his family tree … As well as in the fable of the bad wolf who accused the innocent lamb of muddying the water of the stream from which both drank, if you did not emigrate, your father emigrated and if your father did not need to move, it was because your grandfather, before, had no choice but to go, carrying his life on his back, in search of the food that his own land denied him … Those who managed to withstand the usual violence and the new privations, the survivors, disoriented in the midst of societies that despised and humiliated them, lost in languages they could not understand, were little by little constructing, with almost heroic sacrifices and sacrifices, coin by coin, cent by cent, the future of his descendants »
José Saramago, Prologue of the Book «Moors on the Coast» of
Juan José Téllez, 2001
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One of the phenomena that most destabilize people’s lives for centuries is migration. Increasingly, the possibility of emigrating as another step in life is included because of the desire to improve in some area, to know and experience new things … and let’s not forget about migrations due to violent living conditions or other conflicts. In any case, embarking on a project that involves leaving behind family, friends, culture … inevitably leads to intense personal work of adaptation and grief.
Migratory grief is a type of elaboration of the loss that begins when a person migrates. It is a process that can culminate in success or in pathology, since it questions the resources and adaptation strategies of each one and mobilizes ambiguous emotions making the duel also be. It may be the simplest of duels, but it involves a series of circumstances that can complicate and disrupt all areas of a person’s life.
This experience of change forces the person to work in two directions: adaptation to the new and unknown and the elaboration of grief. Each grieving process is different, and the achievement of these objectives will be influenced by personal characteristics, conditions of migration, country of destination, social support, nationality, age … Sometimes it happens that there is a “pseudointegration ”, For which, in the face of society, the person is perfectly integrated, however in their privacy we find much suffering.
Special attention will have to be paid to the vulnerability factors that may mark the person’s migration and life project, always trying to understand that migratory grief is a very peculiar process:
– It is a multiple duel: as we said before, during migration many things are left behind (family, friends, language, customs, social level …).
– It is a partial duel: unlike death losses, in the migratory duel the loss is not irreversible. This, together with the contradictory emotions marked on the one hand by nostalgia and on the other by the expectations that idealize the new situation make it an ambiguous and bittersweet process.
– It is a recurring duel: it is an experience that is reactivated very often with each call from the country of origin, each reference to the culture itself …
The migratory duel is the great “being between” two countries, two cultures, two groups of people, two vital approaches, two emotions faced… Facing the gains and losses, the risks and benefits that the new situation supposes, testing our capacities of adaptation and psychological preparation for change.
There will be times that psychological and social assistance will be needed because of the circumstances surrounding the process of migratory grief and what it has meant in relation to personal resources. An aid that favors adaptation in the new environment while maintaining connections with the roots of the one left and integrating an emotional work corresponding to the experience of each one.
Giulia de Benito
General Psychology Unit
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MIGRATORY DUEL HOW TO OVERCOME IT FROM COACHING
I will continue talking about the migratory duel. You are probably going through the migratory duel, if you have emigrated, and you feel nostalgic for your people and your things, if you are sad, with little desire to do anything, guilty for having left your family behind, anxiety and fear for the future, not living in the present, comparing the 2 countries constantly and unproductively …
If you think you may be going through immigration mourning, ask for help, it’s okay to ask for it …
Then you have to see if the duel is pathological or normal. To see what kind of help you have to ask for. If it is a normal duel, coaching is ideal for this.
From coaching we can help you to grieve efficiently
For this we will focus on living the present, on focusing on the positive, on remembering that we have emigrated, on feeling our feelings, participating in social activities, …
If you are going through the migratory duel and you have overcome it, we are delighted what you will comment here or through my email email@example.com or if you want to overcome it, contact me and glad to hear from you!POST 24
PRACTICAL TIPS TO EMIGRATE
Today I want to give some practical advice for people who are thinking of emigrating
-What do you want to emigrate for?
-where do you want to go
-if you go because you want to work outside because there is no work in your country it is better to go with work first
-learn the language, at least the basic one.
-if you can visit the country you want to go before and investigate transportation, home, work, weather …
-if you are going to go with your family, make sure your family agrees and talk what your partner will do. If you emigrate for work …
-look for hobbies and how to participate in the new society …
If you are thinking about leaving, do not hesitate to contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org or here and happy to help you and if you have emigrated, tell me about your experience
EMIGRATION INTEGRATION MODELS
There are 2 important things to keep in mind when you emigrate so that the process is satisfactory or bearable
-What for you emigrate: what are your goals when emigrating (for economic issues, to learn the language or some studies, for love, for survival, since your life in your place of origin is at risk …)
-What kind of integration do you want in your new residence. See what relationship you want to have with the natives, with the other emigrants …
Depending on your personal motivations to emigrate, how you face new situations and your desire for integration, and interpretation of how it is, in addition to the cultural reality of the new country you have on this subject, you will live the process in one way or another.
In subsequent posts I will talk about this topic. If you want to tell me something do not hesitate to do it here or by my email email@example.com glad to hear from you!
POST 26 FOLLOWING THE INTEGRATION MODELS IN THE EMIGRATION Today I want to give some “theory.” It is good to have clear concepts to move forward. To talk about integration models in migration, first we have to talk about acculturation According to wikipedia: Acculturation is the process through which an individual, a group of people or a people acquires and assimilates the features and elements of another culture different from their own.
There are different types
1.-The colonization of America is an example of violent acculturation. The colonizers faced the native groups and won the fight. Consequently they imposed their customs, languages, values, religion, among others, on the cultures and traditions of indigenous communities
2.-Migration is also an example of acculturation. When there are important human groups that migrate from one country to another, they carry their culture with them, they instill the smallest. However, many others are losing their traditions and adapt to the culture of where they are.
3.-With globalization there have also been several acculturation cases as a result of exchange. Among them we can mention the use of words in foreign languages, usually in English, to refer to a product or service.
4.-the consumption of products exported, either for its quality or low price, which also derive from the adoption of new customs and market domination
And the one that interests us here is immigration acculturation. How do you live acculturation?
In the next post I will talk about the models there are.hesitate to comment here or through my email firstname.lastname@example.org I will be glad to read you!
Hello again. Today I continue with the different models of migration integration from the perspective of acculturation. This entails different attitudes towards the receiving society and these are Integration, Assimilation, Separation and Marginalization (Berry and Kim, 1987) as strategies or ways of regaining harmony between the culture of origin and the culture of reception.
Acculturation attitudes cross two dimensions, such as orientation towards the country of origin, and orientation towards the host country (Berry, 1997; Berry et al., 1987, 1989) that give rise to:
a) Assimilation, which implies the desire to abandon the cultural identity of origin and focus on the receiving society. It is what some European policies preach in some way in which the immigrant population must strive to behave as a citizen or average citizen of the country, abide by the rules and rites of the host society and thus facilitate its proximity.
b) Integration or biculturalism, implies the maintenance of the specific cultural identity of the group and the orientation to become an integral part of the new society. It tries to maintain a certain balance between the values and beliefs of origin and the new system in which it is found.
c) The separation implies the voluntary absence of the immigrant group’s relationship with the host society, together with the maintenance of the identity, traditions and behaviors of their culture of origin. If there is no contact with the receiving society and it is involuntary and imposed by the dominant group, it would speak of Segregation.
d) The marginalization that comes to be the distancing both with respect to the host society and to that of origin. There is a distance, cultural and psychological, with respect to the culture of origin along with a refusal to join the majority group of the host society. If it is the receiving society that imposes this model then it is exclusion.
Both integration and assimilation are considered to be more adaptive strategies and generate less social stress than segregation and marginalization.
And which one do you identify with? We will talk more about it in subsequent posts. But in the meantime if you want to tell me something, do not hesitate to do it here or by my email email@example.com I will be glad to read you!
POST 28 CONTINUING WITH INTEGRATION MODELS
Hello again, according to other sources studying integration models, they talk about the exclusion, integration and inclusion model. It is a general model of integration, not specifically referring to migration. If not to any group at risk of exclusion. Exclusion is about the group living outside the group, without participating in society. Out of the circle The integration model refers to the fact that the minority group is within the group, participates in society, but not in an inclusive way. The inclusion model does speak that the minority group is not such, that it participates as full members in society, without being discriminated
In the next post I will talk, for what I think is the best model and why. Although there are many ways to participate in society, and many of them correct. As long as you contribute and make you happy and develop as a person.
And you do you think? As always happy to read you here or at firstname.lastname@example.org
For me, the best migration model is the inclusive one. Since you are a full member of the new society, and you have not lost your center. You know who you are, you have made a mixture of your origin with the new culture. You have chosen the values you like best from the 2 societies and you enjoy them. It means that you have gone through the hardest part of the immigration process. As can be loneliness, lack of motivation and lack of social networks … And both you and the host society (the new society) benefit from the good things you have. And this process of inclusion can be in different ways. How is yours? How would you like to be? In my next post I will comment on how is my way. And if you want to write to me here or to my email email@example.com and happy to read you to know how is your way
POST 30 my ideal inclusion model
My inclusion model would be to have a part-time intercultural mediator job between Spain and Germany and work as a coach in both countries (fortunately that is easy, thanks to the internetes). Being able to communicate fluently in German, have German friends and other nationalities in Munich. Participate in cultural and volunteer activities in both countries. And enjoy a beer muniquesa and water from Valencia … although I do not like alcohol. What I mean here is to enjoy both cultures, with their meals, and be at ease in the 2 places. Feel at home in both places and have the virtues of both sites internalized. Any comment? I would love to read them here or through firstname.lastname@example.org!
This Thursday I will give a talk about emotional well-being to emigrants in Valencia. It is a subject that I love. And I consider vital. Being well emotionally. And work it to have a good migration process. Although emotional well-being is important, not only for migrants, but for everyone. But here I will talk about the emotional well-being of migrants. Since it is, we are, a group of special vulnerability and that when we migrate, many people do not take this area into account and make the migration process fail or go very badly. Thing that could be solved, or mitigate the negative effects of migration, if we take measures to do so, and some very simple. In subsequent posts I will talk about them, but in the meantime, I would like you to comment on me here, or through my email, email@example.com how you do to be well emotionally. I will be happy to hear from you
ABOUT HALLOWEEN AND OTHER HOLIDAYS
Today, since it is Halloween, and the celebration of the dead and of all the saints in other places I want to talk about this topic and to talk in subsequent weeks about emotional well-being of emigrants, as I mentioned in the previous post.
When we emigrate, part of our holidays and traditions stay at home and new traditions that are alien to us appear in the new place. We may like it or not. Understand them or not And integrate them into our new life, or not. It depends of may factors, if we like that kind of
party, our values and how clinging we are to our identity of origin. I think that maintaining our traditions is very good. It is enriching, but it is also very good to incorporate new ones, that makes us adapt more and above all that we enjoy life more. And what traditions do you keep of your ancestors? Have you incorporated any new? What is your opinion? I will be glad to read you here or through my email firstname.lastname@example.org
POST 33 ABOUT ORGANIZE THE TRIP
Today I want to talk about the importance of preparing you for the migratory trip. If going to live in another country has not been by forced decision of the moment (war, climate catastrophe, …) the ideal is to prepare for the trip, to ensure a better migration process. And once emigrated, continue working on it. To make everything easier and more comfortable. Life already has enough incentives to not look for ways to facilitate it and have more possibilities to work and improve on really important things. It’s about taking care of the important and not going to the urgent
The fact of planning the trip will save you time, money and problems and will bring you positive things. This philosophy is good for almost everything, or everything in life, and what do you think? Nice to read you here or through my email email@example.com
in subsequent posts I will talk more about this
IMPORTANCE OF GIVING IMPORTANCE TO THINGS
When you emigrate, it often serves as a revulsive to realize about many things. It has helped me to be more aware that there are many things that I thought were important and that I could not live without them, I can live without them. I have learned to travel lighter. To give more importance to a number of things, such as having a job, home, health and people who love me than other things. It has also helped me to clean things and people (too!) It has also helped me to be aware that when you emigrate (and for everything in life) that if you plan the trip it will be all easier (Although not forgetting that flexibility is important and you can’t control everything. I’ve also learned to be more flexible). And knowing that I am going to find myself, or that I can find myself, has helped me. I will talk about this in subsequent posts and what do you think? Nice to read you here or by my email firstname.lastname@example.org
POST 35 THE IMPORTANCE TO BE FLEXIBLE
As I said in the previous post, the fact of living in another country has made me more flexible, live the moment and enjoy things and day to day. It has made me rethink things and see that things can be done differently. Not only because others do things differently but because it has made me think about things and see that there are other ways of doing them, which are very good. I have not wanted to close my way of doing things, because on my site it has been done that way so I have to do it that way. Not to lose my roots. And not losing your roots is fine. But the trees grow up, so still being me, and respecting my origins, I evolve and improve. That makes me enjoy, in relation to other previous posts, local parties and other cultures, and my own. In other words, I can celebrate Santa Claus and 3 Wise Men and put the nativity scene with the caganer (a very local figure)… because everything that adds up enriches…. And what do you think?
Delighted to read you here or by my email email@example.com
POST 36 RECAPITULATIONS ... We are already fiinishg 2019 and going to 2020. I like this number. It is a number that transmits good vibes to me although I do not believe in numerology, at least applied in human calendars. But I do believe in what can inspire us. But the subject of numerology, and similars, is the subject of another type of blog. What I do want to comment is the importance of taking advantage of the situation that we change year, we enter a curious year, because the number, and we can stop and think about where we are, what we want ... and also about issues of migrants. It is good to ask yourself, from time to time, if we are where we want, on a personal level and country. If we are getting our goals, if they are ours ... And see if in the country where we are provides what we have need, and we are giving the new country positive things. Or if we are not well here, see where we are going…. Next messages I will talk about this in more detail ... And you know, if you want to comment something, do it here or by my email firstname.lastname@example.org and glad to read y
POST 37 RECAPITULATIONS 2
Continuing with end-of-the-year recap, when was the last time you asked yourself if you were in the right country? do you feel good in this country?, or do you want to return to yours? Or be in another? In all these questions, what you have to ask yourself is, and reconsider, why did I emigrate? Why do I want to continue being an emigrant? Does it compensate me? If it doesn’t compensate you, can you come back? In any of the options you have to see how to increase the advantages and reduce the inconveniences. And see options. For example, I work a lot from home, and with the cold of the winter in Munich I realized that I was not going out, and that affected my mood. There are thing that I miss about my house, but for now, I still compensate to live here, so when I realized that I almost didn't go out, I forced myself out. I plan to leave, especially in the morning. Taking advantage of natural light and less cold. And that increased my wellness and advantages Do you want to tell me why you emigrated? What do you like about having emigrated? And why not? How can you improve Tell me here or by my email email@example.com and if you want we can talk…. And glad to accompany you on your trip with coaching
POST 38 HUMAN RIGHTS AND MIGRATION On December 10, last Tuesday, was the international day of human rights. And where migration is also commented. I acknowledge that I have not read the declaration of human rights. But I promise to do it and comment it from here, since I think it is something important. It is something we should read all and apply. And fulfill them. We also have a series of obligations. Both legal and ethical and it is good to have them clear. Have you read the statement? what do you think? I will be happy to read you. After Christmas I promise that I will talk about this because it is a subject that we should know Any comments, doubt… Write here or through my email firstname.lastname@example.org happy to read and answer you
post 39 Christmas out Hello again. In this post I have been delayed a bit, since I have returned home for Christmas. These dates, for those who come from Christian countries, where Christmas is celebrated, can be made hard, especially if you cannot go home. I am lucky that I can go. Spain and Germany are not far and if you buy the tickets in time it does not come out very expensive. And I take the opportunity to see friends, fix things at home and others. But not everyone can. And there will be people who will be happy. Since not everyone is Christmas but other people will take it badly, how do you carry it? One of the things I like about living outside (you have to see the good things) is that I enjoy two different ways to celebrate Christmas How do you live it? I am delighted to read you… Through here or through my email email@example.com
post 40 EMIGRANT ASSOCIATIONS I have just read an article on the organization of associations in Germany throughout history, emphasizing at the end about emigrants associations from beginnig of 20th century to the present. With what has made me reflect on this issue. And about whether it is important to belong to an association of emigrants, if you are, to have emotional well-being. I think so, it can help you feel good. It is good to keep your ties. Stay in touch with people from your culture and help each other adapt to the new country. Because I am convinced that it is good to maintain your culture. The good it has. But you also have to be an active part of the new society to which we belong. What do you think? If you belong, or not, to some association I would like to know which (if you do not belong to any of them I would like to know too!), why did you associate and what do you think about maintaining your culture and adaptation to the new country? You know, you can comment here or through my email firstname.lastname@example.org nice to read you and glad to read you!
post 41 social relationship for well-being In today's post I want to comment about the importance of emigrants' social networks to feel good in their host country. I think that having a good social network, both formal and informal, helps our well-being. Especially to emigrants, we leave many things behind and usually starting from zero or very low level. So we need more help here It is good, that once settled in the new home we begin to look for activities with people similar to us who tailor us and look for networks of contacts what do you think? How have you lived the process of having social networks? (or are you living it now) If you want to comment something, do it here or through my email email@example.com, nice to read you. In future posts I will talk more about this topic
POST 42 IMPORTANCE OF SOCIAL NETWORKS BEING MIGRANT For me, it is essential to establish positive social relationships. Whether you are an emigrant or not. But especially when you emigrate, because your world changes completely. Your supports disappear or decrease drastically. And meanwhile we get new we need more from the support of others. Today I want to talk about the loss, and see how to take it and I will be talking in the following posts why it is important to have a support network to have a good well-being When you emigrate you leave many things behind, and you gain others. But while you are winning new things (I have already talked about it but I will talk about it again) there is a time when the feeling of loneliness and loss is greater. You don't know anyone, or almost nobody in the new place. No one to drink coffee, comment on things, support each other ... and even if you win new acquaintances does not mean that you do not miss your family and your lifelong people. Feeling sad is normal. You have to go through there, and not be alarmed. But it is good to ask for help. To associations, to a coach, like me, to your family of origin ... In subsequent posts I will talk about this, but if you want to comment something here or my email firstname.lastname@example.org I am delighted to read you
post 43. Emigration following with social networks
Hello again. To start talking about how to increase social relationships in a place different from yours, it is good you have clear some things: The first is that the natives will not come looking for you. It is you who have to make the effort to meet people. And keep in mind that they are not necessarily unfriendly people. Remember that they already have their group. And they don't need, in theory at least, to meet new people. In addition from other countries that speak weird or do not speak the language. And it is good to be honest and ask yourself the question, how many foreign friends do you have in your place of origin? I don't have many… (and a good exercise is to ask yourself why ... it can give you a clue to get friends in your new home). Summarizing: to have social networks the first thing is to be clear that you have to look for them. Go outside and make the effort. What do you think? In subsequent posts I will continue talking about this. But glad to read you here or by my email email@example.com
post 44 how to increase relationships Hello again. To start talking about how to increase social relationships in a place different from yours, it is good you have clear some things: The first is that the natives will not come looking for you. It is you who have to make the effort to meet people. And keep in mind that they are not necessarily unfriendly people. Remember that they already have their group. And they don't need, in theory at least, to meet new people. In addition from other countries that speak weird or do not speak the language. And it is good to be honest and ask yourself the question, how many foreign friends do you have in your place of origin? I don't have many… (and a good exercise is to ask yourself why ... it can give you a clue to get friends in your new home). Summarizing: to have social networks the first thing is to be clear that you have to look for them. Go outside and make the effort. What do you think? In subsequent posts I will continue talking about this. But glad to read you here or by my email firstname.lastname@example.org
Post 45 coronavirus emigration and relationships
Hi everyone. This post is not intended to be one more about the coronavirus. Just give you encouragement and remember that as I put in an emotional wellness post all this will go away. And I put a story, the king's ring. I recommend reading it and that you make it yours. And tell me what you think. And take advantage of these days to connect more with you, reflect and see what you want and value the good that you have. And see how to improve the bad. And about social relations, now you can take advantage of calling (not WhatsApp messages) by phone, Skype meetings…. Drink virtual cafes with people who haven't been around for a long time due to lack of time…. And of course we can talk to ourselves ... by phone ... or write to me by email at email@example.com and delighted to read you!...
Post 46 coronavirus emigration and relationships
Hi everyone. This post is not intended to be one more about the coronavirus. Just give you encouragement and remember that as I put in an emotional wellness post all this will go away. And I put a story, the king's ring. I recommend reading it and that you make it yours. And tell me what you think. And take advantage of these days to connect more with you, reflect and see what you want and value the good that you have. And see how to improve the bad. And about social relations, now you can take advantage of calling (not WhatsApp messages) by phone, Skype meetings…. Drink virtual cafes with people who haven't been around for a long time due to lack of time…. And of course we can talk to ourselves ... by phone ... or write to me by email at firstname.lastname@example.org and delighted to read you!…
Post 47 emigration and relationships Today I am not going to talk about coronavirus. There is already too much information on social media. And it can harm your emotional and physical well-being to keep talking about it. That doesn't mean you don't have to take care of yourself. That always….. I want to talk about how to have, keep and increase your social relationships living abroad. I have already commented several times that having a good social network is vital to have emotional well-being and that when we emigrate this network is diminished. When I do the emotional well-being workshop for migrants and we discuss the social network issue, we talk about the importance of having people around you, see how important social relationships are for each one, and where each one's needs are. There are people who are more social than others. And it can vary with age. And all the options are good if they produce well-being in the short, medium and long term. I will continue talking about this in future posts. But I would like to know that you tell me here or my email mariarivescoach @ gmail what is your opinion on this topic. Glad to read you!
Post 48 continuing with social networks Hello again. I keep talking about how to have and maintain social networks as a migrant. And of its importance for emotional well-being. I will never tire of repeating it. It is vital to have good social networks. And I don't mean on the internet. If not the real ones…. Have people you can lean on. And laugh. And support too. If you have people who can share things, you will enjoy life more. And you're going to feel better. As long as they're good people ... And having emigrated, it costs more to have people around you that you can count on . And sometimes it is maddening. But you shouldn't give it up. Be clear about what you want and how and you go for it. In future posts I will continue talking about this Do you want to tell me how you felt if you are an emigrant and without social networks? How have you solved it? (if you have) and if you want we can talk here or by email email@example.com
post 49more from social networks Hello again, have you considered what kind of relationships you have? Which would you like? If you haven't, perhaps now is the best time to stop and think about it. Since being in a new place, where you do not know people, you can ask yourself who you want to be with and what for ... and then being clear with whom you want to share your life and how to ask yourself where these people are and go find them. Without fear. Slowly and without pause. The reward is worth…. any questions? Any comment? Delighted to read ... Over here or my email firstname.lastname@example.org
post 50 ending social relationships Hello again. Today is not that it will end social relations. If not, I finish talking about this topic. Summarizing what was said in the previous post on the subject. When you emigrate you lose the habitual contact with your people. And you can feel very alone, especially at the beginning of being in the new country. Remember that the natives are not unfriendly. They already have their social networks and do not need to expand. You do If what you want is to have friends. And starting from scratch has its advantages and disadvantages. The unconscious is that it usually requires effort, time and patience The advantages are that you can be more selective. You no longer relate to the usual ones and you can choose. And you can decide what kind of people you want to relate to. And experience new activities to meet people. Do you want to comment something? How do you relate Write me here or my email email@example.com happy to read you!
Post 51 gift Hello everyone. As I have already done 50 posts on migration, and in these difficult times, I want to give a 3-month program during this month of May. It is a program on how to have emotional well-being and overcome difficult times, especially for migrants. To participate I just want you to tell me through my networks (facebook, mail firstname.lastname@example.org or my web mariarivescoach.com) so that you want to participate in the program or if you prefer, you like more of the blog Greetings and looking forward to reading
post 52 on racism and emigration after the black lives matt
post 53 about racism and emigration Today I want to share a video that is on YouTube https://youtu.be/sGhVNHXDHsc, it is about DNA and traveling against xenophobia. Highly recommended. Next week I comment on it and I am delighted to read your comments here or through my email email@example.com
er movement, more than necessary movement, since all life is important, and there should not be classes or distinctions by skin color, ethnicity, ... having all the same rights and duties, came to mind the issue of racism and xenophobia that, we migrants suffer. In the following posts I will talk more about the subject, but I would like to start a debate on the subject around here. And that you would tell me if you have suffered the issue, how you have felt and handled the issue. As always you can make the comments here or through my email firstname.lastname@example.org delighted to read you!
post 55 more about racism Hello again. I want to continue talking about racism, because it is an issue that affects us all. And it hurts us. To all. More to the victims, but we all lose, since the victim cannot develop his full potential as a human being, he lives in fear and may die for it. And society that is racist loses what victims of racism can contribute to society as well as what they can contribute on a personal level. I think that in order to combat racism, you first have to do an exercise in historical memory and remember that all of us (like in the DNA trip video) have luckily mixed blood. And that our culture is a mixture of others that makes it unique. And thanks to the contribution of others we are what we are (generally better). In Spain we have Celtiberian, Roman, Goda, Arab and Jewish blood, to begin
post 56 more about racism Durban Declaration Hello again, investigating about racism I came across Durban Declaration. The Durban Declaration and Program of Action, which were adopted by consensus at the World Conference against Racism in Durban, South Africa, in 2001, and which constitute a comprehensive and action-oriented document that proposes concrete measures to combat the racism, racial discrimination, xenophobia and related forms of intolerance. Its vision is holistic, it addresses a wide range of topics, and it contains practical measures and far-reaching recommendations. And where more than 7000 representatives of governments and civil society participated in the forum from August 31 to September 8, 2001. I find it an interesting document and wanted to share it on the blog. In future posts I will comment on this statement. Meanwhile, I am delighted to read your opinions and experiences on this topic here or by email email@example.com
post 57 More of Durban Declaration 1 I copy part of a public information note; it is not an official summary of the Durban Declaration and Program of Action. It can be found on internet, and I'll be commenting. But now I find it interesting to comment on this: Adopted by consensus at the 2001 World Conference Against Racism (CMCR) held in Durban, South Africa, the Declaration and Program of Action is a comprehensive action-based document that proposes concrete measures to combat racism, racial discrimination, xenophobia and the related forms of intolerance. The document has a holistic view, covers a wide spectrum of issues, and contains far-reaching recommendations and practical steps. The Durban Declaration and Program of Action enshrine the determined commitment of the international community to fight racism, racial discrimination, xenophobia and related intolerance at the national, regional and international levels. The recognition that no country can claim to be free from racism, that racism is a global issue, and that universal effort is required to tackle it is an important achievement. The Durban Declaration and Program of Action have great moral value and form the basis for global efforts to defend human rights. I think that as a base and start is fine. Since it presents a holistic vision, various aspects of the subject and involves (or wants to involve) all levels and that is good. and what do you think? Nice to read you here or by email firstname.lastname@example.org
post 58 continuing with the Durban declaration Hello again. Continuing with the Durban declaration, in the general questions, first chapter where there are a series of articles, I want to mention two, 116 and 117. They talk about the importance of society to fight racism and xenophobia. I write them here, and next post I will comment them. I would like to know your opinion. 116. We recognize the important role that civil society plays in the fight against racism, racial discrimination, xenophobia and related intolerance, in particular in assisting governments to develop regulations and strategies, and to adopt measures and deploy activities against these forms of discrimination and observe their application; 117. We also recognize that promoting greater respect and trust among different groups in society must be aom
on Durban statement 3. commenting on articles
hello again I’m sorry but I had problems with the computer and I was on holidays too.
Today I want to comment about Articles 116 and 117 of the Durban Declaration. I think it’s interesting that they emphasize the importance of civil society in fighting xenophobia and racism. I believe that although laws are important and necessary (at least in many cases), working for a more just society, without racism, or discrimination of any kind depends on ordinary people. And in us it depends on seeing the other as a human being or as something else. And if we all work for a world of equality and see what is beyond appearances (superficial and others not so much, but superficial) we would be in a healthier and better world
In the next post I will comment on how, from my perspective, we can work to have a world without racism and what do you think? Nice to read you here or by email email@example.com
Post 60 commenting durban articles
Hello again. I believe that all migrants, or almost all, have been victims of racism and xenophobia at some time in our lives. And I think we can do a lot to fight it.
On the one hand is to have clear about we have our rights and our obligations in the new country. Also is good to have clear that although we are migrants, we have the right to seek life for ourselves and we are valuable beings who can contribute to the new society (and in fact we do) many positive things (rather than negative)
It is also that we have to make the effort to integrate ourselves into the new society. And that does not imply that we lose our identity. From my point of view, it involves learning the local language, or the languages, its history, customs and participating in those activities with people from the country that motivate us.
And you do you think? Have you suffered from racism in your new country? What can you do to avoid it? How would you like to integrate in the new country? There are many ways and almost all good ones. I will talk about them in the following posts and I am delighted to read you here or by email firstname.lastname@example.org
post 61 how to fight racism Hello again, today I want to comment on how to combat racism from our side, as migrants. From my point of view, several aspects must be taken into account: 1.-Be clear about our obligations and our rights. And don't let us trample 2.-Make an effort to know the language, history, ... of the country 3.-Participate actively in the new society 4.-Have a good self-esteem. Not just because you are a migrant are you worth less 5.-Faced with a discriminatory act, report 6.-Read about the topic and share. 7.-When you can, dismantle the myths that exist about racism with facts And you, have you suffered racism or xenophobia? How have you handled it? Nice to read you here or through my email email@example.com
prepare emotionally for the trip 1
today I want to restart posts about the emotional preparation of the migratory trip. I have spoken before, but I want to return to the subject. Since it is essential to prepare emotionally for the trip. First is to be clear about why you are going, what your objectives are and do an investigation of where you are going, in case it is a country with a culture and a climate in which you can adapt and if it can provide you with what you are looking for. I believe that Norway is not a country for me. Very dark in winter and I need light. And not so cold. And being clear about this will help you in adapting to the new country. If you have emigrated, what is your experience? Delighted to read you here or through my email firstname.lastname@example.org and in future posts I will continue talking about this topic
post 63 prepare emotionally for trip 2 Hello again, a basic thing to prepare emotionally for the trip is to be clear about why you are leaving, as I mentioned in the previous post, and to list the advantages and disadvantages. Both to leave and to stay. Including the emotional part (you are going to leave friends, family and things that you like in your land, for example). And make an assessment of each thing. For example, the weather, which I am clear about, except in cases of force majeure, that I don't go to rainy places. And there I would put a 0 in the possible country of destination. Or put the climate variable to choose a place. A possible list of advantages to emigrate are: having a job or a better job, getting to know a new country, growing as a person, improving quality of life (especially if you flee due to political issues ...) and the disadvantages are communication problems, leaving people to you want,…. And add each one, according to importance for each one at that time. And make a list of advantages and disadvantages of staying in your place of origin. And compare things. If you need to talk about this, you are blocked by the subject, we can do it in a coaching session. And if you want to comment on your experience or this article, I am delighted to read you here or by email email@example.com
Post 64 prepare emotionally 4 Hello again. I will continue to talk about preparing emotionally to migrate. Once you are clear about the advantages and disadvantages of staying at home and the advantages and disadvantages of migrating to the place where you have decided to emigrate and you have decided that the best thing for you is to emigrate is to accept the situation. And that you can be wrong. That is, once you have arrived at the new destination, see that it was not what you expected, that you have not known how to value it well. Or that there are things that until you get to the site you cannot know. And it's OK. Then it's time to rethink whether you come back or stay. And if you have to stay, see how you can improve the situation. And give yourself some time to adjust. You can't expect everything to go smoothly the first month of arrival And what do you think? Have you emigrated and you haven't just adapted? Have you prepared for the trip? Do you want to comment on it? Do you want me to accompany you on this trip? If you want to comment on any of the previous questions, do not hesitate to answer here or through my email firstname.lastname@example.org
Post 65 gift Hello again. Today I will not talk about how to prepare emotionally to emigrate and that this process is satisfactory and successful. Today, in post 65, retirement age and taking advantage of the fact that one of the main reasons for migrating is for work reasons, I want to give the 2-hour migration workshop to the first 5 people who write to me until Thursday, October 22, It is a workshop designed for people who want to migrate as well as those who have already migrated and have not just adapted. Or you have doubts about whether to stay or return. For more information and to sign up, do it through my email email@example.com and I'm happy to do it. It can be done in person or online
Post 66 prepare emotionally 5 Hello again. I want to thank the people who joined the immigration workshop. And now, today I will keep talking about preparing emotionally. You have already emigrated. And you have valued that it is better for you to stay in the new country. It is good that you have it written, why you have emigrated. And you see it often. And once you have made a list of advantages and disadvantages, the next step is to see how to improve advantages and reduce inconveniences. For me, two drawbacks are the lack of knowledge of the language and the lack of social networks, and to improve these two things is to participate in language classes and do activities that I like, with which I learn the language and interact with people and thus increase the possibilities to meet people like me and thus improve social relationships What are your advantages of having emigrated? And the drawbacks? Do you want to talk about it here and we can discuss it? Also through my email firstname.lastname@example.org, delighted to read you!
Post 67 prepare emotionally for emigration 6 Hello again. Once you are clear that you are emigrating, why, and you have clear the advantages and disadvantages, it is good that you accept that you have left. Make a clean slate. You will see people that you will no longer see, much less. And landscapes. And meals. And you are going to miss significant things. Do a goodbye ritual and let it go. And open yourself to new experiences. You are going to know new worlds and that is good. To help you emotionally to losses, remember how you have overcome it on other occasions, do a goodbye ritual now. If you can, meet your people of origin (live if you go on vacation or through social networks) and have a farewell celebration. And thank them for the positive they have given you. And it also serves to be better remembering that you are not going to see people you dislike. In short: Accept the farewell. Do a goodbye ritual. If you want, I'll explain what mine is like in the next post and celebrate the new ones that will arrive. If you want to comment on something, if you have a ritual, how you have done it, or want to know something, write me here or by email email@example.com, happy to read you!
MY FAREWELL RITUAL
Hello again. As there were people who have asked me, what was my farewell ritual. When we speak of ritual there are many associated concepts. Here the concept I use is: It is a type of symbolic action to work closings and goodbyes, it is the graphic and mental representation of going from one moment to another … in this case from one country to another. What I did when I went to Ireland and then to Germany I did several things_
1.-I went around my favorite places, I mentally said goodbye to them.
2.-I had a farewell party with my friends and family, that although we are seeing each other is not the same.
3.-At home I wrote a letter saying what I liked about the site, and what I didn’t. If also what not. That I was going to miss things and that I was grateful for the good that he had given me.
4.-I allowed myself to cry. It is normal to feel sad and you have to express that feeling.
5.-On special occasions, I light a candle, I read the letter that I wrote and that I kept in a special box and I thank again. And if I want to add something else I do.
That works for me. And you, do you have a ritual that works for you? If yes, I would like you to share it, delighted to read it. And if you want and need to do a ritual we can talk about it. You already know you can do it here or through my email firstname.lastname@example.org
continuing emotional preparation
Hello again. Continuing to prepare emotionally, one thing that goes well is being clear about who you are, what you want and what your values are. Knowing who you are and what you want makes you a stronger person emotionally and more prepared to face the new. That does not mean that your values can not change. A good value that I consider to be good to have is knowing what you are worth, being clear about your strengths and weaknesses, and trusting yourself to achieve your things. And knowing that in a new place is going to cost you a little more since you start from a step back, or two, but that does not imply that you are worth less. In fact, going to another country and driving there implies great strength.
And you, are you clear about who you are? What values do you have? How do you want to get things? I would love to read you and know what values you have and how you have dealt with them. You already know you can do it here or through my email email@example.com
more emotional preparation.
Hello again. To prepare emotionally, you must also be clear that there are going to be changes. Your life is not going to be the same as before. There are going to be worse things, other better, other neutral but different. And all change, each thing that you have left behind implies a series of losses that may be less painful, an adaptation process and slow down, since learning how things work and adapting implies a time and until you have, you learn to handling it will slow you down. Change is not always easy. But if you are clear that they are going to see new things, it will be easier. There are several ways to facilitate the change process. First is to be clear. Then to know that later you will be better, be stronger. It is also good to do a farewell ritual of what you leave behind. Be it negative or positive changes. Because even if you are going to change for the better there is a farewell. And what you leave behind also has its positives. So a good way to prepare is to say goodbye, say goodbye. In the next post I will continue talking about the change. And I would like to know how you have adapted to the change. Nice to read you here or by email firstname.lastname@example.org
post 71 continuing with the change Hello again. Today, and following post, I will continue talking about the change. It's something that scares a lot of people, at least sometime. And especially when we go to a different country that we do not know. Fear, if it is not something that blocks us, is fine, since it helps you to prepare. And to avoid dangers. But without forgetting that we always change (or are we the same as when we were 5 years old?) And in changes you have to trust, but prepare yourself. So if you are going to emigrate and you are afraid of the unknown, and if you do not have it better for you!, but it is also good to prepare yourself, a good practice is to do your own research a little before. Ask on social networks, both on the internet, as friends and acquaintances how life is in the place you go, what things you can do there, meet a friend and unburden yourself, you know the bad things with good company are less…. And if you see that your fear is excessive, and you need help to face it, consult a professional. And how do you face your fear of change? Nice to read you here and through my email email@example.com